Do you ever feel as though your life can’t change, even if you want it to?
Intelligence, personality, physical abilities, “natural talents” … they can’t really change, can they?
How much can we really expect from a second act anyway?
That’s barrier thinking.
It’s what keeps most of us from ever leaving our comfort zone and, sadly, it can hold you back from pursuing your second act.
It needs to go!
Easier said than done? Not necessarily, and science backs me up on this one.
Dr. Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford University, has been studying the power of our mindset for the last three decades and the bottom line is this: if we’re open to growth, we’ll grow. But, if we have what she calls a fixed mindset, we’re likely staying fixed.
To be clear, this isn’t just a mind over matter thing. Our brain physically responds when we’re open to meet a new challenge or dream a new dream. As Dr. Dweck emphasizes,
“The brain has so much more plasticity than we ever dared to imagine. Even as adults we are generating new neurons, and that was never known before.”
If it sounds simple, that’s because it is.
Mindset Can Change Everything
If you still don’t believe it, Mary Jaksch of WritetoDone.com will have you convinced by the end of this video.
She shares her story of starting from scratch after losing it all to a builder who took her money and vanished. How it was her son who introduced her to blogging, something she had never even heard of before, and how it lead to a full-time business doing what she loves.
Watch and learn how she blasted barrier thinking, … and it’s not only when it comes to writing!
The Growth Mindset
As Mary’s success demonstrates, when we believe we can cultivate skills and abilities, our potential is an open door.
One of my favorite phrases she uses is “life experiments”, because it suggests we approach challenges as a chance to play with possibility and learn from experience. What better way to move forward and grow?
Ultimately, who’s to say what we may or may not accomplish with enough effort, training and passion?
And the great thing about doing it now, in our second act, is that we’re already equipped with past experience and the clarity of dreams yet to be expressed.
How about you? Have you ever found yourself mired in a ‘fixed mindset’? Do you believe in your ability to keep growing or are you still struggling with the idea that potential can be unknowable?
I’d love to hear what you think in the comments below.